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New here and only have been a truckers g/f for one day.Been together for 2 years and he just started a little shock to the system. I am hoping its not going to be as bad I am think. Any advice or tips on how to not miss him too much and make this work let me know!

Thanks Lamers

Hope its going well for you so far. You will probably miss him so much for the first while. It does get easier, after awhile you get used to it, it may be a long while but it will happen. Some days are still hard but its not bad most of the time. Make sure you keep busy, go out with friends alot and don't sit around and think about him being gone, and try not to give him a hard time on the phone, he will be calling home to hear a friendly voice, not argue about his job or anything. Its going to be lonely out there for him too. Try to go on a trip or two with him so you can see what it is actually like for him, that is the best thing you can do, it makes it so much easier to understand, plus when people start asking you if you think he is cheating while on the road (cause some idiot always asks that) you can tell him that you know he doesn't have the time or energy at the end of the day for that. Good luck.

[Kaz]

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I am a truckers girlfriend in England. We have been living together for a year now. I don't have the long seperation from him that you have as I see him every weekend and some days in the week. However, when we first got together we liived some distance apart so I only saw him at weekends then. For me I missed him so much especially when we first moved in together and your heart really pangs for him. You do get used to it though and you learn to live with not seeing him all the time, and you really look forward to him coming home when you really value each other and the time you have together.

I am so impressed with the love and devotion that you show on this site for the guys you are with. It would be so hard for me to do what you do, I stuggle with a few days apart, I can only imagine what weeks would be like.

Alley has given you some good advice Lamers. Definitely try and go out on a trip with him, it will give you an insight into what he does and you will see that his whole day is on a schedule so there is not time for messing about and he will be so tired at night he will really be making an effort to be the best he can be for you and will not have any time for anyone else. People think that because a guy has a travelling bed that he is rampant, those people are so stupid. At the end of a day (unless he is with you, and even then he will be tired) he just wants to sleep. I'm guessing that your guys do the same as mine and that is they run from the early hours of the morning 3.00 - 4.00a.m and sometimes to late in the evening and get very little sleep, within the limits of the tacho.

this is what i posted to someone else and i think it would help you as well. my husband has been driving off and on for the last 7 years. when he and i first met he was gone 10 days and home 2 and i had a rough time at first but kept busy and it helped alot. in january he got out of the truck for about 6 months and it was nice that he was here every night and on the weekends and that we could do things on a whim but now that he's back on the road i have to say that i have been having problems. the reason is he gets one day for every week he's out. well since our daughter was born in july he's been on the road and is about to come home for 4 days. i personally cope by talking to him as much as possible on the phone and keeping busy. it's helpfull that our daughter is only a month old cause she keeps me busy with diapers and feedings. if ya'll don't have one then get a really good cell plan as in the beginning you will probably be on the phone alot. another tip is don't stress him out with alot of stuff going on at home as while he's out there there's really nothing he can do about it. make alot of friends that you can spend time with to kill time while he's gone if you aren't working as that will help too. talking on the phone and keeping busy are the two best ways i know of to cope with them being on the road. i don't know how long he's out in between home time but when he is home cherrish it and try to spend as much time together as possible. also riding along if you can is great too. it will not only show you what his days are like out there but will show him that your being supportive of him and what he's doing. it's hard for the guys as well. i rode along with my hubby from november till he got out of the truck in january and loved it actually. i want to ride with him again but we have to find a baby friendly company first. lol. well that's all i can think of at the moment. hope this helps.