New to site/need some opinions

Hi--I am new to the site but not to being a truckers wife (6 years in July). I have a question about your S/O life on the road. My hubby has taken to talking (alot) to a couple of women, and I don't mean his dispatcher. One is an old friend and one is a fellow(or should I say female) trucker. They talk several times aday everyday while he is out there. I hate it but he swears nothing is going on. What do you all think? Should I continue to worry or accept it and go on. He still comes home to me and our family. And he still takes care of me. I would appreciate some insight. Thanks for your time.

first things first, look at the facts, how many miles does he put on in a week, if its over 3,000 then the man probably doesnt have time to fool around. Is he hiding the fact that he's talking to the women. if so, then worry, if not don't.

to tell you the truth theres not alot of time out here for that kinda stuff. and the girl that is a driver, unless there both on the same dedicated account that only has one shipper and a few stops, theres not much of a chance that they'll be in the same place at the same time anyway. the only time you need to be concerned is when he starts lying about something. then there's obviously something to hide. just my 2 cents

Thanks for the input. It makes sense what you said but I also have to ask "does it not matter what they talk about?" Please reply.

well theres no way for you to find out what there talking about for certain, so it's a moot point. the fact is trust in a relationship is a 2 way street. in this case if he is cheating then his violation of your trust will destroy your relationship. by the same tolken, if he is'nt cheating then your lack of trust will also destroy your relation ship. my ex-wife used to accuse me all the time of cheating on her when i was'nt. i gave up my driving career, to spend more time at home but the accusations remained. after a while i got fed with with the constant arguments and the inability to go anywhere without being told i was doing something. so i left, got devorced and am back out here on the road. she calls me at least once a week asking me to come back. unless you have a really good reason to be untrusting i would say be careful, or you could end up in the same boat

Thanks again for the reply. I don't mean to be untrusting and I certainly don't have divorce in mind. I truly love my dh and want to trust him. But He also pops off with things like "Oh, that must be her home number". What would he be doing calling a female driver at home? I know you don't know the answer to that, how could you? I also believe that phone sex is also cheating on your spouse if it isn't with your spouse. It is real hard to be a truckers wife sometimes.

no its not easy being a truckers wife. i was the girlfriend then we got married. during this time i also drove and rode with him. i found out alot and i can be more understanding about alot of things he does out there. i know its not always feasable to get the time to ride with him, but if you get the chance, do so. you'll get to see the whole picture.
we have had our problems with being jealous each other. ours was mostly due to "outside influences" thinking they had to put in their 2 cents worth. the best advice i can tell you, is to talk to him about it. you dont have to be confrontational, but you should be able to talk to him and let him know how you feel. you should know that much of the time these are just people he talks with to make the time go by, or to help him stay awake. when you do tell him how you feel, listen, really listen, to what he has to say also. hopefully he will be able to comfort you and put your mind at ease. the real key that we have found is to be able to truly communicate with each other. my best to you.

Hey Twiggy, glad you have joined us with your insight. Thanks for the support to me and the other "girls". I have been on the road with my dh but I need to do it again!! a little refresher so to speak. I am certainly taking one day at a time. Hope to hear from you again. Take care and God speed be with your honey.

thanks for the welcome. ive been there done that with the phone thing too. had one little "thing" calling and acting like he was her hubby. i heard the messages she left for him. he had to change his phone number to get it to quit. then when she couldnt get thru she had the nerve to tell alot of his friends that he was found dead along the hwy in cal. not only that she called his company saying she was his wife and wanted them to get a msg to him cause she couldnt get thru. he had to reassure ALOT of people he wasnt dead. this little "thing" ran with the group of friends we run with. i do believe she has had many people turn their backs on her because of this. then come to find out she has mental problems anyway. i dont feel sorry for her because this is a game she has played too many times and gotten away with. so yeah, i can really really understand where you are coming from. i lived and so did he. our relationship is just that much stronger cause we relied on and trusted each other thru it all.so again my best to you. i hope it all works out. ive got cookies ready to come out of the oven. come on over and we'll have choc chip cookies and a cup of coffee....lol.

I recently went through the same thing with my husband. For five years we have been together and he has been a truck driver the whole time. He lied to me told me when they ran together that there was another driver present. There wasnt. He told me she didnt have his phone number, she did. There were other things that I later found out he lied about. So, I called her! I called her and asked her if there was nothing to hide then why did he lie to me about everything. She assured me that nothing happened that perhaps the only reason he lied was because I was suspicious and he was afraid that the truth would only make me that much more upset. She assured me that she lived with a guy and was very much in love with him and my hubby was nothing more than a co-worker to run with to keep her company. I politely asked her to please not communicate with my husband by phone anymore as I simply could not be comfortable with that fact and she promised not to. She also promised to call me right away if he did try to call her or run into her again. Of course I plan on monitoring the cell phone bill to see for myself. But it was just that one incident and I havent heard of any such thing since.
My suspicions caused him to lie to me even when there was nothing going on. So my advice to you would be, call her. Find out for yourself. It might just be that she talks to him because she respects him or looks up to him kinda like a brother or something. Who knows. I know where you are coming from though and I dont feel that any husband needs to put himself in any type of compromising situation like that and out of respect for you he just shouldnt.
Good Luck

Thanks for the input. I have been away for awhile. My dh says the same thing to me about why he doesn't tell me things, so he doesn't upset me or cause a disagreement. I wish he would understand that I get way more upset if I find out he didn't tell me than if he just did it himself. I will let you know if I call her. I do have her phone number!!